Even though you’re the manager of a great team and you have an understanding boss, sometimes just one of you isn’t enough. You love to do a good job, be challenged and exceed expectations but what there are occasions where you’re just too good for your own good. So your boss keeps adding even more tasks and well they’re your boss so you’re just not sure how to say no or want to look weak and ask for help.
But as Margie Warrell, writes for Forbes asking for help, in fact, does the opposite and denotes strength, not weakness. Fear can often get in the way of seeking help be it personal or professional.
So just how to approach asking for help? Author of the book The Hustle Economy, The Art of War Visualized, How to be Interesting, Jessica Hagy published on Forbes a whole list of ways to ask for help. “None of the options are to ask apologetically, sheepishly, desperately, passive-aggressively or silently,” she says.
1. Being straightforward
Don’t beat around the bush, be as upfront as possible and say;
“I’m looking to hire someone to do this thing for me.”
2. Make it reciprocal
The best way to get something from someone is to offer something in return. Be prepared to trade your help for theirs and say;
“Can I trade my expertise for yours?”
3. Be strategic
If you are taking a very busy person’s time to ask for help then make sure to do it in the best setting while they are in the best mood. Next time try this;
“Hi, Mentor. Can I take you out to lunch next week?”
4. When it’s urgent
If you need help straight away make sure it’s clear and that you are willing to pay for it. Be upfront about the deadline and remember you need their help not the other way around, next time you could try say;
“I have a project I’m happy to pay your rush-rate on. Are you available right now?”
5. Teamwork is everything
Its all in the presentation asking to collaborate on a project or offering your help in exchange for collaboration on your problem will make the person more willing to help as they feel like the work isn’t just being passed to them. Make them feel included and part of the team by saying;
“Here’s my problem, and here’s what’s in it for you if you help me solve it.”
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